Can you be a perfect mom… Ever?

Can you be a perfect mom… Ever?.

 

Dont blame “MONEY”

Happiness can not be bought. A lot of people say that. Can money buy you happiness?? Oh No No. That’s shallow, that’s wrong. Even if I believed it I would not say that. Lets be real for a second and ssshhhh, no body is going to judge you. No one is here inside your head. Did a nice pair of shoes made you smile some day? Yah it did ! Did you really enjoy the new coat you wore to work this morning and hell yah you were totally rocking it? Yah you did ! Made you feel good now did it not? So what buys all these stuff? hmmm let me think. Honesty, modesty or being humble. Na-aan-aan MONEY

So money did buy you happiness? Yeah it did, As a matter of fact money can make you happy and still be the “good guy”. Yah money “the good guy”. It is not always bad to buy stuff and have fun with it and enjoy it. If I have money I will be able to ‘easily’ buy something that will really look good on me and make me feel beautiful.

So what the point there? If money bought happiness rich people would never be sad, but, honey it is not mathematics. Blaming the amount of money or the happiness associated with buying the stuff instead of blaming yourself for being materialistic will not solve your problem. Own up to it, yes money made you happy.

So what point do all these ‘noble’ people make when they simply point their humble fingers at people and say “money can’t buy you happiness”? They are just trying to say that ONLY money can not buy you happiness. You need to have relations and associations and experiences to feel happy, The fact is that all of them have enjoyed the perks of having bucks in their hands and enjoying and smiling with the things they had bought. Every one loves being able to afford good things in life.

Stop blaming the money. Money is a good thing. It buys you stuff that can make you smile. It buys the you the paints that make you the artist. It buys you the books that take you in a fantasy world. It buys you the car that you use to visit your grandma. It buys you the ticket that takes you around the world.

So stop blaming money and spending money. It is not such a bad thing. Its being “materialistic” can not buy you happiness. Money can, and money does provide you with the means that make you so happy.

I am so happy ! I finally was able to buy happiness with money. I was so happy when I finally found my perfect watch and paid $7 for it. See it did get me happy. Seven bucks is money, isn’t it?

 

Can you be a perfect mom… Ever?

The answer is short, simple and may be hard for some. NO. First up, when you ask yourself if you are a perfect mom or not, is where you are wrong. What is perfect? If it is NEVER making any mistakes than no, you are not. If it is NEVER losing temper, no you are not. If it is NEVER scolding your kids, no you are not.

Its not the word ‘perfect’ that is creating a problem with us, its NEVER. You can never eliminate never in your life. You can never be a mom who never does anything wrong. You know why? Because it is how life is. A mom is not an alien, a Prophet or a super human type of thing. A mom is just any other human being living on this planet making mistakes.

Second, why do you need to be perfect? So that you will never have any guilt (see its the ‘never’ that is the problem). As women we are ready to face all the consequences of what we do in our everyday life especially our relationships. The relationship with a baby is just another relation. You need to work on it and understand what is needed from you and deliver. Will your child be happy with u always? No, he will not be.

Lets ask ourselves are we perfect daughters, perfect friends, perfect wives ? No we are not. So cut yourself some slack if you are not a perfect mom. The point is not perfection, to me it is customization. Like in marketing when u give the buyer a product according to his needs. The product may not be perfect in the eyes of most of the people but it is what the buyer needs.

You need to give every kid and in broader case every relationship its customized effort. That is what will make you a good mom, a happy mom and eventually a maker of a happy family. Make a goal towards not being perfect mom but a mom who knows what she should do no matter how much her personality clashes with her kids.

Don’t try to be a perfect mom, try to be a hard working family maker. You will be the perfect example of an amazing mom.

All the best !